The Life Changing Habit of Empowered Self Care

If you are a client of mine, or have been reading the blog, you know I like to take the loving approach to facilitate change.  Love is the only place where all lasting healing comes from.  And, for that lasting healing to take place in our own lives, we have to extend love to ourselves. 

I’m sure most of you have all heard something about the self love movement.  It’s a new idea that is turning a lot of heads.  As a collective society, we have spent a lot of time trying to hate and shame ourselves into change.  We criticize ourselves and others over every little “flaw”.  Every magazine we see at the store is plastered with advertisements on how to get a better body, a new workout or diet to try, and tips on how to get people to like you.  Everyday we are bombarded with pictures of photo shopped men and women, weight loss products, and dietary dogma.  It’s no wonder we hate our bodies, feel confused about our health, and just end up settling for sugar and TV at the end of the day.

To counteract these false belief systems, the self love movement has begun.  This movement consists of mostly women who have decided to turn their backs on the standards and expectations of society.  The message is ‘love yourself the way you are’.  I support this idea 1,000%.  Because, again, if we don't look at healing (from disease, emotional eating, anxiety, pain, etc.) from a place of love, real change wont happen.  It’s imperative that we do love and accept ourselves today, the way we are right now.  When we appreciate our bodies the way they are, we open the door to healing. 

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Empowered Self Care vs. Destructive Self Care

I want to make something else clear.  With that self love, also comes the need for self empowerment.  Without the element of empowerment, we can end up using “self love” as an excuse for self destructive behaviors.  Because, and listen up now...

Loving ourselves cannot be used as an excuse for going on junk food and Netflix binges.

One more time...loving ourselves cannot be used as an excuse for going on junk food binges (or any other unhealthy habit).  When we truly love and accept ourselves, we are able to break away from the fear, the patterns, and the dependency that drive unhealthy habits. 

Don't get me wrong, I'm still a real human.  I love Netflix and ice cream.  I just do it in balance and without emotional attachment.  No guilt, no shame, and no overjoy either. 

There is a big difference between changing "bad" habits out of shame, guilt, and essentially self hate versus changing those same habits from a place of empowerment, self love, and gratitude.  Eating healthy, exercising, sharing your passions with the world, and living abundantly – this is true self care.  It is only when we are standing in the flow of our own personal power, that we can truly nurture, serve, and love others. 

I had a misconception of self care and self love for years.  I thought that my self demeaning habits – eating junk food, skipping workouts, and playing down my gifts – was taking care of myself.  The food brought comfort.  Laying low kept me protected.  Or so I thought.  

I realized that staying in that place was the deepest form of self rejection and denial.  I was rejecting my true nature.  My true nature, and all of our true natures, thrive in health and authentic self care.  And, when we are in that place of empowered self love, we can thrive in service, charity, and love for others. 

Support in Empowered Self Care

Asking others – your spouse, family, or friends – to assist in self destructive behaviors isn’t support.  It’s ok to be different.  It’s ok to change.  We don’t have to keep living in old patterns just because “it’s the way we were raised” or “everyone else is doing it”.  It’s time we support ourselves in empowered change, and ask for the support we need from others.  Tell your spouse or significant other, that you are making a change.  And, if you aren’t finding support in outside sources, support yourself.  Always support your authentic self.  When we aren’t living our truth, we will feel it.  I did this for years.  And, wow, I was uncomfortable!  I was overweight, broke, exhausted, sick, and overwhelmed. 

So, find others who are on the same journey and stick together.  Extend the love you wish to feel for yourself, to others.  

To Sum It Up...

Indulging in junk food is not self care.  Denying yourself health, wealth, or thriving relationships isn’t self care.  It’s quieting your power.  It’s stepping down from your life and essentially saying, “not today, thanks anyways”.  Authentic self care is daily habits that empower a person towards greater health, wealth, passion, and purpose. 

Examples of Empowered Self Care 

What does empowered self care look like in real life?  It can mean many different things to you.  And, it may change everyday.  But, here are a few examples of true self care.

- epsom salt bath at the end of a long day

- going for a walk in nature

- stretching 

- enjoying a warm cup of tea and a good 3pm...for no reason at all

- going to lunch with a friend

- turning on music and cooking a delicious, nourishing meal for yourself

- sitting under the moon and journaling everything you are grateful for

- taking a nap when you are tired, without guilt

- having a dance party with your kids (or by yourself!)

- starting up a community tradition (dinner swaps, friday night pizza and a movie with friends, etc.)

- having a designated "snow day" once a month - stay in, read good books, watch funny movies, and play games

What are your favorite empowered self care habits?


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How To Use Essential Oils to Beat Sugar Cravings

Do you ever feel out of control around sweets?  Like, if you have one bite you won't be able to stop?  

Ever wish you had a tool you could pull out and use when a sugar craving hits, besides sheer willpower?!  Now you do!  Plant remedies (herbs, essential oils, flower remedies, homeopathic remedies) can be used for so many things.  In this case, we can use essential oils to support our hormones, digestion, and tastebuds to move past sugar cravings. 


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Post-Meal Craving Buster

This tip is for those who get those cravings right after a meal.  For me, it was a habit.  I always wanted a little something after lunch and dinner.  Long after I decided to replace my sugar habit with more loving self-care, my tastebuds were still craving sugar.   This tip did the trick – and still does!


1 drop therapeutic grade peppermint oil


Peppermint can clear out your sinuses, clear up your thoughts, and clean your palate.  Put one drop on the back of your clean hand and quickly dab the tip of your tongue on the spot.  Close your mouth and let the peppermint reset your tastebuds.  Make sure you wash any excess peppermint off your hand! 

If you don’t feel comfortable using the oil internally, you can always put a drop on your hands, cup your hands to your face, and inhale the oil. 


Sugar Craving Buster Oil Blend

These oils have been selected to offer support while breaking your emotional and physical sugar cravings.  


4 drops Bergamot (supports endocrine system and promotes a sense of calm and wellbeing)

3 drops Ocotea (supports balanced blood sugar levels)

7 drops Dill (sugar craving powerhouse, helps remove addiction to sweets)

You can put these oils into a 10ml roller bottle and fill remaining space with a carrier oil (I use fractionated coconut oil.  Rub a little on your wrists a couple times a day while you are shifting your sugar habits.  Then, you can use just as a craving hits. 


*Make sure you use therapeutic grade oils.  If you need help finding them, you can contact me or your local Young Living distributor.


Want More Support? 

Sugar cravings can be physical (lack of proper nutrients, neurotransmitter imbalance, or simple habit) or emotional (using sugar as comfort, joy, companionship, etc.).  If you want more support in healing sugar cravings and transforming your relationship with food, check out these other resources. 

Transforming Your Relationship With Food

Want to Kick Your Sugar Habit?  Do This First! 

Releasing Food Anxiety + EFT video


What have you done to help break the sugar craving cycle?

Want to Kick Your Sugar Habit? Do This First!

Sugar!  It’s everywhere, and we know it.  We also know how bad it is for us.  So, why do we keep eating it?  Why do we crave it so much?

I’ve been there.  I grew up on sugar, and then used it as comfort food as an adult. Stressed out?  Grab the ice cream.  Celebrating?  Let’s bake cookies!  Birthday?  Party?  Holiday?  Survive the day with kids at home?  Eat all the sugar! 

It became so ingrained into my daily life that I didn’t even notice it anymore.


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Then I got sick, and started down the road of natural healing.  Of course, all of those paths lead back to diet, nutrition, and cutting out SUGAR.  I would try and fail so many times.

I would decide this was the “last time”, binge, restrict my food, stress would hit and cravings would start, and I would eventually cave and start eating the white stuff again.  Sound familiar?

I thought sugar was the problem.  If I could just stop eating it, everything would be better.  But, the problem wasn’t sugar.

The issue was that I was cutting out my comfort, my stress release, my companion.  Sugar isn’t just sugar for most people.  It’s so much more.  When you cut out a food you love, you’re also cutting out the FEELINGS you experience while eating it. 

Think about it…so many things we do in our society are centered around food and sugar, right?  Besides that, we also use it as a source of joy, comfort, relaxation, companionship, etc. 

Junk food was my self-care. 

Rather than reaching out to others for companionship, I ate ice cream.  Rather than taking a relaxing bath at the end of the night to wind down, I ate peanut butter cups.  Rather than going for a walk to recharge my body, I ate cookies. 

Sugar is not a healthy replacement for self-care, joy, companionship, or comfort. 

Once I realized this, I knew it wasn’t just about taking sugar out of my life.  It was about ADDING some really great habits IN and creating new ways to de-stress. 

What Can You Do Instead?

Sit for a minute and think about all the things you enjoy doing that don’t involve food.  Write down a list.  Maybe it’s drawing, writing, having a dance party, gardening, going for a walk, talking with a friend, playing with your kids, or snuggling with your spouse.  What did you enjoy doing as a kid?  Did you enjoy playing sports?  Games?  Exploring nature?  Write down everything you can possibly think of that doesn’t involve sugar. 

Now, go do those things.  Sounds easy, right?  Right.


It’s really that simple.  If you want to kick your sugar habit, don’t focus soley on taking sugar out of your life, because those feelings of deprivation are going to hit sooner than later.  Focus on ADDING in JOY!  Fill that space with things you love - things that are truly going to de-stress and re-charge your body. 

So, what happened when I dropped the stress about sugar and just focused on cultivating gratitude and joy in my life?  Pretty incredible things, actually.  When I stopped believing I was broken, dropped the struggle, and finally let go, I HEALED.  I was always searching for the big secret to my health.  I thought there was one big mysterious puzzle piece that I had missed to kicking my cravings.  And, there was.  But, it wasn’t a superfood, a supplement, a modality, or anything like that.  It was JOY.

Creating more joy in your life will, I promise, radically shift your sugar cravings.  And, possibly your entire life as well.

Now go, enjoy that beautiful life you’ve been given.  Food is just food, nothing more.  Eat up the love that is all around you. 

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The Reason Why You're Tired All the Time And What to Do About It

"I can't seem to find the motivation to do everything I need to."

"My doctor says I'm fine, but I just feel 'off.'"

"On paper, I look healthy.  Why am I tired all the time?"

"Everything exhausts me."

"I'm just trying to get through the day.  Everything feels like a chore."

Sound familiar?  These quotes are a small sample of things I hear from my clients on a daily basis.  Why is everyone tired all the time?  When we feel tired, it's nearly impossible to thrive. 

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Aside from perfectly normal reasons to be tired - a new baby in the house, a stressful event, recovering from illness, etc - we don't have to feel tired day in and day out for no apparent reason.  Our bodies are designed for health and vigor.  When you are feeling tired all the time, your body is sending you a message.  What is it saying? 

Here are the top 4 reasons why you may be tired...

1.  You Aren't Allowing Yourself to Rest

Rest is incredibly important to our overall health and well-being.  For some reason, our society has made us feel like it's a bad thing to need rest.  It's not!  Time each day to wind down and rest is perfectly normal and should be welcomed. 

A lot of times, a client will come to me wanting to work on fatigue.  He/she will tell me all of the reasons why they can't be tired - too much to do, work to get done, chores to finish, kids to tend to, places to go, people to see, errands to run, etc.  They don't have time for fatigue.  They want me to "fix" them so they can get on with their busy schedule.  Possibly the only thing that needs fixing is the busy schedule. 

If you are tired, rest.  Don't hold judgement around it thinking, "Oh, I shouldn't be tired.  I need to just push through this."  All that does is suppress your body's only way of communicating with you, and the signal will come back louder next time.  You will need way more than just a quiet day at home - you could have a full blown illness and be in bed for a week. 

As we gently listen to our body's signals for rest and quiet time, we will be rewarded with increased energy and vitality.


2. Your Adrenal Glands are Tired

Your adrenals are two small glands that sit on top of the kidneys.  The adrenal glands produce adrenaline and other hormones.  They are made to help the body deal with stress.  When we are living in a constant state of stress and overwhelm, the adrenal glands can get fatigued. 

Symptoms of adrenal fatigue are:

  • Difficulty coping with stress
  • Salt cravings
  • Feeling fatigue even after a good night's rest
  • Pain in the lower back
  • Pain in the left knee
  • Sensitivity to light
  • Brain fog

In Chinese medicine, each organ/gland is connected to certain emotions.  The adrenal glands are connected to humiliation, jealousy, longing, overwhelm, pride, shame, shock, unworthy, and worthless.  If you feel a lot of those emotions, it will weaken the adrenal glands.  And, if you have weak adrenal glands, you will be more prone to feeling those emotions.  I discuss ways to release emotional stress in the video.

How do you heal the adrenal glands?

The best and quickest way to heal the adrenal glands is to give yourself 1-2 weeks of nothing but self care.  Inform your spouse, close friends, and loved ones that you need time to heal.  Ask for support.  Have food brought in.  Lay in bed.  Watch funny movies.  Sleep when you're tired, eat when you're hungry.  Get some fresh air.  Seem impossible?  Make your healing a priority, find the support you need, and you will thrive.  You can't be fully present and help anyone else when you are burned out.  

Make sure you are appropriately salting your food with high quality sea salt (I use Redmond's Real Salt).

Slow down your schedule.  Make room for self care, joy, laughter, friends, walks in nature, and love. 

I suffered from a pretty major case of adrenal fatigue, and was able to heal it with the things I outline in my book, "A Handbook for Healing."  You can get 3 free sections of this e-book when you sign up for my newsletter on my Home page.

Slow down your sugar habit.  Sugar weakens the adrenal glands and throws off our body chemistry.  This one deserves it's own section.

3. Your Food is Draining You

Everywhere we look, we are bombarded with processed and sugary foods.  We feel isolated, hungry, tired, bored, and disconnected; and it's easy to fill those gaps with sugary food.  Processed foods are hard to digest, filled with toxins, stress out our bodies and minds, and dull our senses.  They are much harder to digest than real food.  Our body knows what to do with real food (vegetables, fruit, beans, whole grains, healthy animal products) and doesn't recognize fake foods.  Our bodies get tired from eating processed foods simply because it takes a lot more energy to digest them. 

A lot of people reach for sugar when they feel tired.  Sugar can give us a brief energy boost, but then we crash hard and feel more tired than before.  Processed sugar can stress out all the parts of our body - especially the hormones, adrenal glands, and nervous system.  It wreaks havoc on our emotional state.  Ever heard of an "angry drunk"?  Well, sugar can do the same thing.  We can get crabby, anxious, depressed, angry, overwhelmed, short tempered, and frustrated from a daily sugar habit. 

Sugar is pervasive in our society, and most people tell me that they feel addicted to it.  They know that they don't want to be eating it, but cant seem to stop.  This is usually from the emotional drivers behind the cravings, rather than a physical addiction. 

The majority of the time, we eat sugar to numb out our negative emotions.  It's really about addressing the emotional connections, finding peace within, and transforming your entire relationship with food. 

It's also about releasing the guilt around food.  Trying to force ourselves to stop eating something we love out of sheer willpower, because we think it's "bad", never works.  A lot of the time we crave sugar because we think we "can't" have it.  Try this the next time you reach for that bowl of ice cream - just enjoy it.  Really savor every bite.  Be present with it.  You might notice that you don't need as much to feel satisfied.  Or, possibly, that you don't even like the taste of it.


4. You are Carrying Emotional Baggage

Several years ago, when I was suffering from an auto-immune disease, panic attacks, adrenal fatigue, and constant stress, I was trying to "fix" myself with a whole host of holistic treatments.  I had the "perfect" diet, took loads of expensive supplements, saw practitioner after practitioner after practitioner, got into bed early, and on and on.  But, I was at rock bottom.  I was doing everything I could, and just wasn't feeling any better. 

Turns out, I was carrying stress with me 24/7 on an energetic level.  Stress in the form of trapped emotions.  Trapped emotions are actual energies that get stored in the body after a stressful event.  A lot of my clients will say something like, "ever since ______ (my divorce, my illness, the birth of my child, etc), I haven't felt good".  This is exactly what trapped emotions do in the body.  We hold the stress of that event in our body, and we have to know how to release it. 

These trapped emotional traumas and stress cause all sorts of problems in the body.  Fatigue, anxiety, depression, digestive complaints, and pain are some of the big ones.  When you know something is "off" and you can't put your finger on it, it may be energetic stress. 

You can release a lot of this energetic stress on your own - through prayer, healing laughter, rest, meditation, time in nature, etc.  But, sometimes it takes extra support to release deep seated stress from the body.  


Last Thoughts

Next time you feel fatigue, do the 30 Second Healing Activator Exercise, take 5 minutes to check in with your body, see what it needs, and rest.  Nothing is wrong with you.  You aren't broken.  Fatigue is communication.  Listen, heal, and thrive!

Someone in your life feeling fatigue?  Please forward this blog post to them!

In gratitude,

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